Managing your mindset means taking control of your thoughts and directing them in a productive way. It’s based on a classic mind-over-matter philosophy that you are what you think. But sometimes there is a deeper, emotional component to your thoughts that can be hard to control.
As we go through life, not every experience is uplifting and supportive, and the difficulties can often get stuck in a part of your system that your thoughts don’t influence. Anything that affected your confidence, your safety, or your sense of comfort in the world can alter your beliefs behind the scenes and cause problems when you try to move forward.
You may notice it as background chatter that keeps you from maintaining a particular focus or degree of silence, or it may be more direct like you're using a new mindset to encourage input from team members, but you notice judgment or bias that keeps throwing you off track.
Bigger events like divorces, deaths, injuries, accidents, or legal fights are the more obvious culprits, but the impact of smaller events can also accumulate over time, especially if they started in your first twenty years when your beliefs about yourself and the world were taking shape.
Ideally, a habit of managing your thoughts in one particular way will have longer term effect so that you don’t have to apply the discipline every time you want the benefit.
In your leadership mindset, your mindfulness practice, or even your meditation, notice how challenging it is to get there in the first place, notice how challenging it is to keep it there, and notice how easily your mind reverts back to the “other state” when you stop applying the tools.
If your new mindset isn't taking hold as easily as you would like, there is probably a block in your energy system that comes from outdated emotional experiences.
There are tools you can try like surface tapping or chakra rebalancing to take the edge off the energy blocks, but working in the present conscious state doesn’t allow complete access to beliefs that operate in the background. To disengage them for good, it’s best to identify the difficult events at the source and target them directly with a deeper healing approach.
If you can bring a difficult event to mind and still feel an emotional response in your body, like tears, heart pounding, or tension in your gut, then that is the part that needs to be released. There may also be thoughts about it that you haven’t let go, or emotions that you might recognize like fear, anger or embarrassment, so find a healing approach that can release the impact from all angles.
When you can re-live the event in complete peace and it feels like a day at the beach, then you have cleared it. But be careful not to force it. If you are in the habit of controlling your thoughts, you might try to power your way through this too. The deeper you bury it, the harder it is to heal, so be honest with yourself about how it feels.
The results will show if you keep track of your mindset and it becomes easier to manage. If surface tools or self-applied methods are not helping enough, or if it’s difficult to find the beliefs or the events on your own, then find a professional (like me!) who can help.
Remember, freedom is the goal, no matter how you get there.
I practice a high quality, professional strength version of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) that is extremely effective at finding the disruptions in your system and healing them at the source. Take advantage of free consultations, and new client specials to learn more.